I began a reply to Prembio's post. Then I thought I should probably watch the podcast so I'd know more about what I was talking about. This is how far I got before listening to the podcast:
With all due respect to John, something about his words irked me, mildly of course, because it wasn't like that for me and so many others. Everyone's background, circumstances, vulnerabilities and susceptibilities, etc., are different. As Don said, "some of us walked away easily and for some of us it was much more difficult." As for myself:
• It didn't become "quite clear" to me for nearly thirty-six years that I'd been fooled; it took decades before I walked away.
• I was indoctrinationally barred from just walking away.
• I went through a huge struggle.
• Even if I didn't have the beautiful experience - or even the peace - I was looking for, Prem Rawat convinced me it was my fault and I either needed to make more effort, let go, surrender or just wait for the muck to settle or the sun to come out or some such thing.
• I was forbidden from taking any free time to go out in the morning - or any time of day for that matter - and ride a bicycle.
• If "whoever has gone through that stuff can have it" had anything to do with the kind of stuff I went through, then I certainly wouldn't want them to have any of it.
Then I watched the podcast and, again, with all due respect to John, I found his commentary... I don't know how to say this... dispassionately distanced, lacking in expressed empathy... devoid of explicitly holding Prem Rawat responsible or accountable for destroying so many lives, including the lives of his own brother and sister (who ended up homeless and sleeping behind garbage cans and even in snow).
To the contrary, he came across as spared... elevated even by his own good fortune and being thankful, free, clear and happy in part because he never struggled with any of it. Good for him. His memories of the cult seemed to revolve around the initial exhilaration, high ideals, positivity, excitement and hopefulness... bags of cash and all. As if, unlike so many others, he came out unscathed. More knowledgeable for the lessons learned. To me, however, it almost seemed like a block or avoidance of facing it squarely and digging into it.
Then, for me, it all fit when it took an almost triggering turn. In the context of all the trauma inflicted by religions and other such cults, etc.:
John: I just want to say to all the people in the world that have been trampled by their religion and have experienced some terrible, terrible things. I mean from priests molesting kids. I just hope that someday you can just walk away and say, you now, that didn't have anything to do with me. That was just a crazy thing and just go on with your life. But for so many, they're traumatized forever.
Don (to is credit... repeatedly throughout): ...there's a lot of trauma in all that. I mean, from the people I've spoken to, victims, the trauma goes deep, deep, deep. It really, really does. I think it's impossible for any of us who have never been molested to understand what that does to a human being. You know, it's just inconceivable.
John: (almost interrupting) You know, I just and yeah, and I yeah, you know, what I mean? You just say you just need to walk away because it's beyond deadly.
I suppose that by adding those last three words after Don spelled it out, that at least he gets it. But saying the victim didn't have anything to do with it... when the victim was raped or molested!... really misses the mark: the victim was raped or molested for bleep sake! He or she didn't have anything to do with perpetrating the crime, but they were certainly doing (fighting, resisting and being traumatized) while they were being done to. It's like a ray or an atom or a quark on a trajectory towards one end of the universe suddenly being altered or diverted up to 180 degrees. It will never return to it's original trajectory.
Can't you just let it go? Can't you just walk away? Move on?
In a cult for decades being deceived, exploited and mentally, emotionally and intellectually stunted? Deprived of the unfettered freedom (thoughts, creativity, curiosity, talents, etc.) your peers enjoyed throughout their lives? Soul rape as some on this forum have described it?
Can't you just let it go? Can't you just walk away? Move on?
C'mon John. Dig a little. Try to feel what your brother and sister must've felt.
I sincerely apologize if my impressions mischaracterized or misrepresented John's take on any of this, but sheesh, if so, please try to interject a bit more articulation to avoid such misimpressions in the future.
To his credit, I thought Don did his best as a host to steer it in that direction and keep the conversation in the context of Prem's destructive role.
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Sadly, Don also mentioned that Arthur Brigham passed away recently.